Jen GrayBee Sober Ambassador

Jen Gray

Region: Jersey, Channel Islands

Hi, I'm Jen, I'm 47 and I made a very conscious decision to stop drinking on 22nd April 2019. What started as a "lets see how I get on" has ended up with a true journey of discovery. I drank as soon as I was able - from around the age of 15 - and loved it! I was never a particularly shy person but it gave me a confidence to do stuff I wouldn't have dreamed of doing sober. I was Jen who was "great fun when she's drunk" and that badge kind of stuck. Happily indulging on any occasion - or not even an occasion - just ending up really REALLY looking forward to that big glass of wine, or bottle of beer, at the end of the day. Nothing out of the ordinary there, but it started to chip away at me. The anxiety, the hangovers, the being sick, the not being present for my kids, the prioritising of that glass of wine over anything else. So that Monday morning, on 22nd April 2019 (after a pretty standard Easter Sunday of drinking), I made a decision. I didn't for one second think it would bring me to where I am today, and I literally took each day as it came, but stopping drinking has made me happier than I ever imagined I could be. AND, for the record, I don't think I'm dull, or boring, or any of those things that I genuinely believed I would be if I stopped drinking alcohol. If only this feeling could be bottled.